“Why must I be the one to forgive? I was the victim, the one who was hurt.”
“because, I am the one who wants to be healed.”
Forgiveness is an inside job. As long as we don’t forgive, we hold ourselves prisoner.
In the book, A Course in Miracles, there is a statement that says:
“Every action we take is either an expression of love, or a call for love, regardless of how unskillful it may seem.”
That means that we learn to separate the being from the behavior itself. Our practice is to learn to see past the person who did the behavior into the essence of who they are.
I Recognize, I Bless (i.e., you, person, this thought, this feeling, this event.)
I Forgive (you, person, for showing up as THIS thought or feeling AGAIN.)
I Release (You, it, or this to LOVE.)
Myth: Self care is selfish, my grief should be focused on my departed.
Truth: Self care is the foundation for moving through grief because grief Zaps your energy and grief lives in the body.
Myth: My heart will always have this wound and I will never be happy again.
Truth: My heart will always have this wound and new life can grow around it.
Myth: If I stop longing for my departed I may forget or dishonor them.
Truth: By living life fully I honor and remember my departed.
Myth: I must do grief alone because no one can understand my pain.
Truth: We hold ourselves back when we don’t ask for or accept offered help.